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How To Overcome Being Resistant to Change: The Secrets of Change In Life

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It’s futile to fight change. 

However, many of us find ourselves resistant to change, even when we know that changing our mindset or behavior will benefit us.

So, how do we overcome this resistance to change?

This article will explore the secrets to embracing and making lasting changes in your life.

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The Journey of Change

I recently finished reading the book, Soul Speak: The Language of Your Body by Julia Cannon. It’s about how your body is the perfect messenger for your higher self, and all the pains and accidents you experience are actually messages that need your attention.

After completing the book, I realized that all of my energy centers, also known as my chakras, are out of alignment. That realization immediately prompted this question, “How the heck do I realign and rebalance my chakras?”

Within a few days, I got my answer.

The universe led me to a series on Gaia called, Rewired by Dr. Joe Dispenza and I binged watched the entire season in about three to four days.

This series opened my eyes to a lot of things, particularly about change and why this physical body is resistant to change.

The pointers I’ll share in this article will not spoil the series for you in case you want to watch it yourself. Also, Dr. Joe Dispenza does a wonderful job of explaining the scientific processes and research that have been conducted on this topic.

As I am not a scientist, this is my takeaway and what I learned from this series in regard to change.

What Makes a Person Resistant to Change?

Apparently our bodies have been subconsciously programming themselves, since we were born, to become our new brain.

It records the things we experience and stores them in our subconscious so we have a library to refer to the next time something similar happens to us, so we can react much faster.

This is why if something bad happens to us, like heartbreak or financial struggle, we remember how we felt and can recall and feel that moment time and time again.

That explains the mind-gut connection greatly. The body turns the experience into a feeling and remembers it for us.

That also explains why it’s so hard for us to make a change in our lives because the body isn’t willing to take risks and wants us to stay where it’s safe.

This is the issue or side effect of our brains giving over their power to our bodies. The brain loses its energy and no longer becomes the focal point of our energy source, so we have to do some energy work to move the energy back to the brain from the body.

This may sound a bit confusing so let me simplify it some more.

Everything is energy and our brains are the receiving/focal point of energy for this physical body.

Over time, as the body goes through life and learns life lessons in this physical realm, that focal point shifts from the head to the body, because life lessons are stored in the body.

Now, when your life scenarios stay the same, and you face the same issues every day, and nothing new is added to your life, there will be zero need to engage the brain. So the body continues to automatically respond by doing the same things.

It’s like waking up every day and going through the motions. You know what to expect, you don’t need the brain to think, so subconsciously it becomes habitual.

That’s the main reason why a person is resistant to change.

Their bodies are stuck in a habitual loop and to break out of that loop they’ll have to energetically shift that energy from the body back to the brain.

The Only Strategy to Overcome Resistance to Change

Mediation always seems to be the only answer.

I’ve experienced some benefits from meditating, like getting my anxiety and depression under control, however, it’s always a pleasant surprise when the scientific community proves or discovers something new that happens through meditation.

I’m a firm believer that this physical life is a game and to truly enjoy this game without it consuming you, you must disconnect from this reality.

Look at it this way…

Young gamers who fall in love with a challenging game will spend their entire waking hours and most of their sleeping hours glued to the screen trying to beat the next level.

They completely neglect their bodily functions and forget that they need to eat, sleep, use the bathroom, and socialize with people outside of the game.

They become so entwined with the levels and challenges that they lose their patience, get frustrated, and even get angry and break things when the level becomes too hard.

If their parents don’t physically pull them away from the game, they’ll never take a break.

Sound familiar? It should because it’s the perfect explanation of life!

The difference between the young gamer and us adults is that we have to be the ones that pull ourselves away from this game called life.

We have to be the ones who say, “That’s enough for today, let’s disconnect.”

It’s like the universe knew that we’d get really caught up playing this game of life and created an automatic ejection process that happens regularly so we don’t lose ourselves completely.

That automatic ejection process is called sleep.

We automatically and sometimes involuntarily disconnect from this physical game when we go to sleep.

However, this process is obviously not enough.

When you spend all your waking hours stressed, frustrated, and annoyed because you’re confused about what to do with your life or you don’t know how to make your business succeed, when that involuntary break happens, you end up carrying all that energy with you instead of leaving it behind.

The issue with constantly doing this is that when you return to this game, you come back with the same stale energy, in the same state of mind, thinking about the things you did wrong yesterday, five or twenty years ago, and how they’re going to mess with everything you have planned today instead of starting fresh.

To break this cycle, you have to voluntarily disconnect throughout the day to help yourself see that this really is all just a game and you’re supposed to be enjoying yourself.

Your Physical Self vs Your Energetic Self

Yes, this physical self seems more real than the invisible energy field that surrounds and protects it but deep down you know that your energy field is more real than your physical self.

If you’re still skeptical, ask yourself this:

How do you sense when something has shifted in your environment without you visually seeing anything? In other words, how do you know when something feels off when there’s no physical evidence of it?


How do you know if the person walking behind you means to hurt you or is simply just minding their own business?

That’s your energy field – which is really your true self – sending signals to your physical body, that’s how you know.

So, what does this have to do with change?

Well, the only way to see real change in this game called life is if you meditate more and focus on aligning and expanding your energy and vibration.

According to Dr. Joe Dispenza, only 5% of our brain is conscious which means the other 95% is all subconscious, which further means in order to make effective changes in this life we have to reprogram our subconscious, and doing that consciously will take a very, very, very long time.

Again, everything is energy, and what we focus on expands so it’s time we stop playing by the rules of the physical and start reconnecting with the part of us that has all the power to make the changes we want to physically see.

The Simple Process Of Change

I’ll write it one more time, everything is energy.

Before a cell became physical, it was light. And what is light? Energy.

We are light, which means we are energy.

Once you understand that simple concept you’ll begin to see that you’ve been caught up in a game and you forgot to take breaks so you started losing your light by fighting for the physical. That made everything a lot harder than it needs to be.

The process of reconnecting is not hard, however, your body will resist because it doesn’t like breaking its habitual routine.

Remember, your body does not control you so don’t allow it to scare you into doing what it wants instead of doing what will propel you forward.

When you sit down for a ten to fifteen-minute meditation, your body will try to remind you of all the things you should be doing instead of sitting there doing nothing. Take charge and remind it that it does your will, not the other way around.

The Step-by-Step Process

  • Set an alarm for 10-15 minutes
  • Sit in a comfortable position. (Try not to lie down because you’ll probably fall asleep)
  • Focus on your breathing
  • Follow your breath as it moves up and down your body
  • When you feel relaxed like your body is sleeping but your mind is awake
  • Expand your focus and think about space, how vast, dark, and silent it is
  • Allow your mind to relax and settle into space
  • Feel yourself being grateful for allowing yourself this moment of stillness
  • When your mind starts chatting, bring it back to the present and feel the gratitude

Once you’ve learned how to find this moment of stillness easily, start focusing on reconnecting to your energy centers, your chakras.

  • Focus on your root chakra location and feel the energy resonating from it and around it, move on to the next chakra once you feel it’s time.
  • Continue this process until you’ve reached the crown chakra, then take a few moments to feel gratitude and appreciation for allowing yourself this reconnection.
  • Once your alarm goes off, don’t just leave that blissful energy where you were sitting, carry it with you and maintain it throughout the chores and physical requirements of your day.

I set an alarm every hour to disconnect and reconnect for one to two minutes throughout my day and it’s been a happy reminder when the alarms go off.

I’ll sometimes be in a situation where all my senses are heightened and I’m so deep into the physical that the sound of the alarm is a welcome relief and reminder to disconnect and reconnect.

Recommended Article: Chakras Explained: What You Need To Know About Your 7 Chakras

Change is Inevitable

The wonderful thing about this physical realm is that everyone is constantly changing. No one stays the same and even when a person fights change with all their might, they too will eventually change.

That’s just how this world was designed.

To be in charge of your change, you must be in charge of your body and reprogram the habitual routines it learned, and as we’ve learned, the only way to do that is by reconnecting with your energetic self.

It’s time to start playing by different rules. The energetic rules instead of the physical rules.

What do you think will happen when you start actively reconnecting with your energetic self instead of allowing your body to dictate who you are and why?

Let me know in the comments below.

Questions You May Have

What do I do if someone is resistant to change?

Do nothing. There’s nothing you can do if a person refuses to change, you’re just wasting your energy trying to make them change. They will change when they feel like it or their situation forces them to change. Focus your energy on your energetic self.

What are the types of resistance to change?

There are two types of resistance to change: active and passive. Active resistance is when a person actively speaks out against the change, while passive resistance is more subtle and could include anything from procrastination to sabotaging the changes.

How can I make sure I’m reconnecting with my energetic self?

The best way to ensure you’re reconnecting with your energetic self is to make time for it. Set aside time every day to sit and meditate. This will help you reconnect and become more aware of your energy and how it interacts with the physical world.

Why am I so resistant to change?

Your body naturally wants to be comfortable, so it will be resistant to change. This is because your body is used to doing things the same way for so long that those things become your habits. When you try to add something new to change your routine your body will trigger a warning to try to convince you that staying in your comfort zone is better.

When is the best time to reconnect with my energetic self?

The best time to reconnect with your energetic self is in the morning or evening or when you can be alone. A quiet place helps you get out of the constant chatter of people and exposes you to the constant chatter of your brain, so you can work energetically to silence it and connect to your energetic self.

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Jody is a creative writer, artist, graphic designer, and a digital nomad who also helps people live more fulfilling lives by finding creative solutions to their personal growth and development problems and lifestyle challenges.

5 thoughts on “How To Overcome Being Resistant to Change: The Secrets of Change In Life”

  1. Julie Russell

    I love how you explain the resistance to change and how to change it by reconnecting to your energetic self and aligning your chakras! I’m always looking for articles about chakras relating to personal growth. I look forward to reading more articles!

    1. Jody

      I’m happy enjoyed the article Julie, thanks for reading and there will be many, many more to come.

  2. Thanks for this! Super informative. I am going to look into the Rewired series. Hadn’t heard of it before.

  3. As someone who finds change challenging, this article couldn’t have come at a better time for me. I’ve noticed that once I open myself up to embracing significant changes in my life, I often discover that they aren’t as daunting as I initially thought.

  4. I love everything about this. My favorite line – That automatic ejection process is called sleep. anytime I’m super stressed I always say I just need a 30 minute nap to reset. basically, I’m just ejecting from life for 30 minutes 😄🩷

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