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The Importance Of Learning To Say No

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Not every situation that arises in your life should be entertained, your time is precious and frankly, not everyone or everything has your best interest at heart. The importance of learning to say no can be the difference between getting involved in a sticky situation or walking away with your head held high.


The power of no!


Whenever you hear the word no, it means that you’ve come to the end of an agreement but I believe that no is a word that we do not use enough. 


For example,

Your friends are having a get-together but you have a ton of work to do. Instead of saying no, you allow them to talk you into going to the party. Something goes wrong and your only thoughts are, “I should have stayed home.”


If you had declined the invitation, you’d have finished your work and got some much-needed rest. But because you didn’t say no, you’re now stuck pulling two all-nighters trying to meet your deadline.


You do not have to show up to every party, you do not have to answer every phone call, and you certainly do not have to give an explanation of why you’re choosing to say no.


Why learning to say no is important


I’ve been in numerous situations where I felt if I had declined the invitation, I’d have been a lot better. Being an introvert with a small amount of extroverted tendencies, I always choose to stay home instead of going out. Sometimes I allow myself to get talked into doing things that I had no intention of doing because I like to try new things and explore.


Parties are not one of those things. Most of the time when I allow myself to get talked into going to a party, I normally leave feeling like I wasted an outfit, makeup, and some precious hours of sleep.


I had to learn after numerous failed attempts of being a true extrovert that it’s better for me to say no.


That no has given me the power to choose where I want to go and who I spend my time with. It’s opened up a world of possibilities that I enjoy exploring instead of trying to fit into someone else’s preconceived notion of a “good time”.


Learning to say no gives you power over your decisions and allows you to do what you want.


Why you should say no more often


Before Covid-19, I knew a lot of people who would force themselves to go out and mingle with people even though they’d rather be at home drinking a hot cup of chocolate, simply because they couldn’t bring themselves to tell their peers, no.


They became the “life of the party” when they truly wanted to be home alone binge watching Netflix.


If you were that type of person, it’s time to take your personal power back from people who do not care about your sanity.


Saying no should be easy! If you don’t want to do something, don’t do it. Follow your gut feeling and do exactly what you want.


The only person who matters at the end of the day when no-one else is around is you. Saying no means that you’re taking care of yourself. It is another form of self-care.


Benefits of saying no


Besides feeling in control of your actions, saying no has plenty of benefits.


Saying no means you:

  • Value yourself and your opinions 
  • Value your time
  • Are standing for what you believe in
  • Know exactly what you want and are not afraid to go for it
  • Respect yourself 
  • Value your well-being


How to say no politely


Simply saying “No!” can be harsh in certain situations. Luckily there are nicer ways of saying no that still carry the full force of the word.


Here are a few options:


“I’m sorry I couldn’t be of more help”

“I have way too much on my plate at the moment but you could try…”

“This is not the best option for me.”

“Sorry but I’d rather…”


It’s okay to say no to things that you rather not do. Doing so means that you value yourself and your time. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied into situations you’d rather stay far from. The choice is always yours.


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Jody is a creative writer, artist, graphic designer, and a digital nomad who also helps people live more fulfilling lives by finding creative solutions to their personal growth and development problems and lifestyle challenges.

11 thoughts on “The Importance Of Learning To Say No”

  1. Scout At Heart

    I agree – saying no is part of self care! You’ve got to know yourself, your limits, and how you really need/want to spend your time 🙂

    1. Jody

      I couldn’t have said it any better!

  2. Julie Russell

    This is a great article and I love how you mention saying no is a form of self-care! It’s so true that you get to decide how you spend your time. I look forward to reading more articles!

  3. Nicolle

    Saying no is so super powerful and such a beautiful way to say yes to yourself. Really enjoyed your post, thanks so much for sharing!!

  4. Catherine

    This post is great!! I fully believe in saying no to things I don’t want to do or don’t have time for. It’s great for your mental health to learn the power of no!

  5. I totally agree with this. NO is a powerful word which is rarely used. Thanks for sharing

  6. This is a refreshing and healthy post that all stressed out, overly busy people need to read! It is okay to say no sometimes!

  7. Love this article especially the options of saying no in a different way.

  8. There are times when saying no comes easy and times when it can be the hardest thing to do. I have been working on this and I find my mood gets better when I learn to say no to things that I just don’t want to do.

  9. Had to put this power to use several times today.

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