Frustration normally appears in us as a triggered emotional turmoil caused by an annoying or irritating obstacle blocking our path towards our goals and dreams. Everyone has been frustrated at some point in their lives. It’s a perfectly normal reaction to the unpredictable and uncontrollable situations in our lives.
How we express those frustrations is what categorizes our innate character.
What triggers frustration?
Internal and external sources all play a part in triggering frustration within us.
Some internal sources are the state of your health, a lack of financial means, and the lack of confidence and skills you require to accomplish your specific goal.
External sources that trigger frustrations are mostly linked to the people you interact with and the environment you choose to dwell within.
It’s easy to become frustrated when you feel like everything is hindering you from claiming what you desire.
You must protect yourself
If you realize that a certain place or person puts you in an upsetting mood, you have to eliminate them from your life. Observe your feelings and listen to your gut— it’s normally screaming at you to run away from a place or person that’s no good for you.
Examples of frustration
You’re working in a high-end job, the pay is great, and your first few months go by smoothly— everything feels perfect. Six months in, you encounter a problem with a co-worker.
You try to resolve the matter but nothing seems to be working.
You ask your supervisor for assistance in dealing with this co-worker and they dismiss your concerns with a shrug and walk away. As the days progress, the tension in the workplace grows more unbearable.
Everyone from the boss down has ignored your attempts to peacefully resolve the stressful situation that is now affecting your quality of work.
You’ve been penalized for insignificant things that other workers seem to get away with. Your sense of belonging has dissolved and you’ve resorted to separating yourself from everyone else.
This reclusive behavior eventually cost you your job.
That exaggerated scenario is a prime example of how the wrong place and people will affect you mentally causing you unwanted frustrations.
Even if everything started with the illusion of perfection, something has to go wrong in order to trigger frustration.
Paying attention to how your feelings progress over time will give you early insight into whether that environment or that person is beneficial to you.
You have to know yourself
Signs of frustration
Physically our bodies are always giving away exactly how we’re feeling. A study on drivers showed that frustration activates the muscles around our mouth region which causes us to raise our chins and pucker or press our lips together.
The signs that you’re frustrated might be hidden within another reaction. Find the root of your frustrations and you’ll have a starting place to begin the elimination process.
Here are a few reactions that are signs of frustration
- Giving up
- Loss of self-esteem
- Loss of self-confidence
- Feelings of sadness, uncertainty, depression, or anxiety
- Abuse of substances (drugs and alcohol)
- Physical destructive behaviors (violence towards others and yourself)
Frustration can lead to anger
When the signs of frustration are taken into consideration, anger seems inevitable. Anger is the easiest emotion to express—digging below that anger is where the real work comes into play.
Healthy ways to release frustration and anger
Take a nap, allow your brain to work through your frustrations without your emotional interruptions. You never know, sometimes you’ll wake up with the solution to solve your dilemma.
Get some fresh air
Changing your environment will physically and mentally allow you to focus on something other than your problem. Taking a walk outside, preferably in nature, will help to relax you and assist you in thinking clearer.
Identify the reason for your frustration and deal with it
The frustration won’t go away until you find the root and eliminate it. Ask yourself questions to reveal the root of your frustrations and then create an effective way to confront that problem.
Journal your thoughts and feelings
Journaling is a great way to get your thoughts out of your head and on paper so you can truly evaluate what’s going on. Keeping a journal has beneficial results for a short-term release and a long-term fix. Journaling will assist you in getting to the root of your frustrations which will allow you to create a plan to deal with it. Read more about the long-term and short-term benefits here.
Take a few deep, slow, long breaths in through your nostrils and out through your mouth. It’s hard to stay frustrated in a relaxed state so make it your goal to consistently exist in a relaxed state.
Use these tips to release frustration whenever they appear in your life.
Remember that life is constantly testing you to see if you are worthy of achieving your goals. Try not to lose your focus and your temper because the obstacle that’s causing your frustration is only a test that’s preparing you for better things to come.