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I Finally Learned How to Pray Non-Religiously

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Prayer is said to be miraculous and growing up in the church I was surrounded by constant praying but something always felt off to me.

I’ve had a thing against religious institutions because they normally preach the separation of people, for example, my church is the correct church and if you don’t join me you’re doomed for an eternity of torture.

That’s a bit harsh and I stated it’s a separating mentality.

I have not had great experiences in the church and that caused me to question everything which pointed me in the direction of spirituality, and the spiritual world is all about cooperative energy.

Everything is connected so forcing ourselves to live and see people, animals, and nature separately is not natural.

Why People Pray

There are usually two reasons why people pray, the first reason being the majority of the two.

  1. They normally want something
  2. They’re thankful for something

From my experience, people pray because they want

– protection for themselves and their families,

– food,

– money, and

– health.

Those are the major things I’ve heard being asked for in a lot of prayers that I hear. However, we all have been taught how to pray wrong.

Here’s why I say this…

When you ask the universe, the source, or the divine for something, you’re indicating that you don’t have what you’re asking for.

From the knowledge I’ve been gathering, the universe has specific laws that it abides by and it doesn’t matter if you want to believe in them or not. It’s just how it is.

The law of attraction is the one we humans choose to focus on the most because we want to manifest a better life, more money, and better relationships.

However, when you ask for something that you don’t have, you’re coming from a place of lack and when you’re focusing on lack, all you’ll receive is more lack, which is counterproductive.

Think of it this way:

If you’re constantly saying, “I want more money, I want more money, I want more money.” You’re screaming that what you have is not enough.

That not having enough vibration you’re energetically projecting is indicating that you are in a state of want and the law of attraction brings you what you’re energetically aligned with, not what your words are saying.

So if you want something and you constantly ask for it, you’ll notice that it’s not coming because you keep wanting it.

You’ll begin to think that something is off, and your suspicions will be correct, you’re aligning energetically with the want (the lack) instead of aligning with how it will be when you have what you’re wanting.

If this is confusing, it will make more sense soon.

How To Actually Pray

A lot of people normally say that there’s no right or wrong way to pray but I’ve come to find out that this is not the best advice.

Thanks to Gregg Braden, the host of the series Missing Links on Gaia, I learned that praying is a lot like visualizing.

Praying doesn’t have to be an elaborate one hour or more occasion of begging, pleading, and asking. It can be as short as a few seconds or as long as you feel.

The best part that I’m understanding about it is that words are not even needed.

You’re emotions and feelings carry a much stronger frequency than your words.

The key to manifesting anything, especially when you’re praying for it, is to allow yourself to feel, smell, taste, and engage all your senses with what it feels like to already have what you want in your life.

  • How different does your life look since having what you want?
  • What are you doing differently? How do you look, how do you feel now that you have what you’re asking for?

Go through the emotions, the feelings, and the joy, and when you’re finished with your visualization (praying), say thank you.

Feel the gratitude for already having what you’re asking for and stay in that feeling for as long as you want.

Then go do something you enjoy.

Don’t Complicate It

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When you want something, approach the asking as if you’ve already received it.

It’s a two-part process:

  1. Visualize already having what you want
  2. Feel gratitude that what you wanted already came to you

It’s that simple.

Praying became something I wouldn’t entertain no matter what I was being told about its powers.

It just never made sense to me, and I despised how everyone around me did it, so I became very comfortable being the oddball.

I’m sure I’ll still be the oddball because of my approach to this, but I’m still very comfortable with that.

I always promised myself that I wouldn’t do something because someone else told me how wonderful it is while also restricting me to do it their way.

The concept of my way or the highway never sat well with me.

So when I learned that there were other ways to walk a path I explored all of them for myself.

I’m sharing this particular path because I’m excited to finally learn how to do something that I know can be very beneficial without wading through the muddy waters of religion.

If you’ve been interested in praying but confused about how to do it, like I have been until now, share your thoughts with me below on how beneficial this article was for you.

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Questions You May Have

What is the best way to pray?

The best way to pray is to focus on visualizing what it feels like to already have whatever you’re asking for and feel gratitude that it came your way. Focus on being in the emotion of having what you want as if it already happened.

What should I say when I pray?

You don’t actually have to say anything when you pray. Focusing on the feeling is more important than words, so take your time and allow yourself to experience what it would feel like to already have what you’re asking for.

How does prayer work?

Prayer works by sending out an energetic frequency of what you want into the universe. When you focus on your intention and visualize what it will feel like to have it, this helps guide the universe in delivering that prayer back to you.

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Jody is a creative writer, artist, graphic designer, and a digital nomad who also helps people live more fulfilling lives by finding creative solutions to their personal growth and development problems and lifestyle challenges.

2 thoughts on “I Finally Learned How to Pray Non-Religiously”

  1. Julie Russell

    I love how you explain and simplify praying in a non-religious way! It’s important to find what you believe in and work with those beliefs. This is something I’m working on this year and dedicating a whole month to work on it. I look forward to reading more articles!

  2. I think that possibly the most important aspect to praying is expressing gratitude. I do believe I am praying to our Heavenly Father, who loves me and desires to bless me. When someone gives a gift, it feels so good to know your gift is well-received. I’m sure it makes you want to give more gifts. I’m not saying God is limited to giving gifts to those who express gratitude. I think He actually wants us to express gratitude because of how good it is for us. When we are aware of our blessings and are thankful for them, we are much happier.

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