Change your mindset, change your life!
Understanding that you hold the power to change your reality simply by changing how you think might be hard to accept at first, but the truth is, you hold all the power— and it starts with the way you think.
Changing your life from what it was to what you envision it to be, takes dedication and hard work but before that journey begins, you must undertake a mental revamp.
Positive vs. Negative
You cannot bring positive change in your life if you choose to think negatively.
Positive and negative are the polar opposites; one cannot exist where the other lives. There will be a constant clash when the two are forced to coexist together. This applies to everything from batteries, to magnets to, most importantly, your thoughts.
If you entertain negative thoughts, you’re forcing your reality to stay in a loop.
Positive thoughts create a positive environment but the moment those negative thoughts roam free, everything transforms.
Negative thoughts come in the form of doubt, fear, and worry. If you’re put in a situation where you cannot see a way out, your first set of thoughts are your ruling thoughts.
For example,
You wake up late for work and realize that you won’t get there until three hours after your scheduled time. You start to panic fearing that today could be the day you lose the job you cannot afford to lose. You start dreading “the talk” you will have with your supervisor and your boss about your tardiness which causes you to panic even more.
When you get to work, no one says anything to you so you try to hide your head and walk quickly to your desk. Your co-worker strikes up a conversation and starts to say how wonderful it felt to get the extra sleep this morning. In a daze, you remember from a meeting last week that today was the day when everyone was allowed to come to work later than the normal working hours. It’s only after that realization that you begin to physically and mentally relax.
All those negative thoughts running through your head were a waste of time and energy. You know from experience that everything always works out in the end but because you haven’t eliminated those negative thoughts from your way of thinking, by default, your brain opened the floodgates and allowed all of them to take over your mind.
Identify and eliminate your negative thoughts
If you’ve ever been in a situation like the example I just shared, then you know what your limiting thoughts are. Keeping this type of negative mindset will not allow you to become the best version of yourself.
Once you’ve identified the thoughts your mind automatically goes to, it’s time to tackle and eliminate them one by one.
Thoughts like these are holding you back:
“I’m not good enough to…”
“I can’t…”
“I’m not smart enough to…”
“I don’t know how to…”
Instead of thinking that you can’t do something, understand that you can do anything you set your mind to. The only person holding you back is you. You have a brain like all other human beings and when you use it, it will change your life.
Whenever you think that you’re incapable of doing something or achieving a goal, ask yourself why you’d like to accomplish that goal and use the answer as fuel to change that negative thought into a positive one.
Challenge yourself to become more aware of your thoughts and actively change your negatives into positives.
When that little voice tells you that you can’t, you prove to it that you will.
Change your mindset, change your life
The first step to change is accepting that there is a problem. If you’re skeptical, you doubt yourself, you fear change, or worry all the time, you’re creating a safe space for the negativity within you to grow and flourish.
It’s time to clean house!
Confidence within yourself leaves no room for doubt or fear. If you failed at a certain task, you will have learned a valuable lesson that will help to guide your future choices.
Failure is not the end, it’s the hidden lesson you need to learn to succeed.
Fear and self-doubt are holding you back from your full potential. As soon as they rear their ugly heads, challenge them and prove to yourself that you are worthy of what you’re trying to achieve, you deserve the best, and you will live the life of your dreams.
Change your words, change your mindset, change your life!
The way you speak influences how you think and how you act. Choosing to use limiting words such as “I can’t…” or “I’m not…” stops your brain from finding the solution to your problem at hand.
Ask yourself open-ended questions.
Start asking, “How can I…” questions instead of saying that you can’t afford or you can’t do something. You are smarter than you give yourself credit for.
I’m sure you’ve used your brain to get yourself out of some sticky situations before so instead of doing so once in a while —when there seems to be no other way to resolve an issue— apply this type of cleverness to your everyday life.
For example,
If you need a new laptop because your current one just showed you the blue screen of death, instead of saying “I don’t have any money to buy a new laptop!” Ask yourself, “How can I acquire the money I need to replace my laptop?” Immediately your brain takes on the challenge and starts to find solutions.
This technique is best used with manifestations, instead of giving the negative thoughts that linger in the depths of your brain a chance to shoot down your “I Am” affirmations, blindside them with positive questions so your brain can help you materialize whatever it is you want to be manifested in your life.
Be gentle with yourself
Being motivated and dedicated isn’t enough to change your mindset. Besides being a divine being, you are also human and you will make mistakes. Instead of viewing those mistakes negatively, understand that they are there to help you.
Mistakes help you grow because every mistake you’ve ever made teaches you a lesson.
Don’t be too hard on yourself if you haven’t made that particular deadline or if you couldn’t solve that problem the first time around. Some things take more time than others, you cannot force anything to work before its time.
Be gentle with yourself. Even if you’re a fast learner, some lessons come in stages. You won’t always see the big picture until all your tasks are complete.
Changing your mindset takes time and dedication. This personal development journey you’re on is not a sprint; take it one day at a time.
Don’t allow burnouts to throw you off track permanently.
You are capable of achieving great things, start with your mindset and you will indeed change your life.
Love this, there’s a part that you said even if you’re a fast learner, lessons come in stages.
I believe I am a fast learner and sometimes that makes impatient but from this article I will remember it’s a personal development journey, not a sprint. Big up you Jody 🙏🏾
Yass!! I’m happy I was able to help! It is definitely a personal development journey. Thanks for commenting Shanice, I appreciate you!
Love this post about having a positive mindset! Changing your mindset is a process so the point about being gentle with yourself is a great one. I look forward to reading more articles!